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How old it too old to vacation with and pay for your kids vacation?

High school friend is taking his college age and older kids to Italy for a vacation together. He finds it creepy but his wife insists. They go on ALL their vacations and it drives him nuts.

My sister in law gave her 22 and 25 year old kids bills for their share of hotel rooms and gas when they went to Florida.

When I was younger, my parents cut us off the day my older brother hit college. No more vacations - our responsibility.



Our 55 year old neighbor took a 2 month cruise with her mom - they shared a room the entire 2 months.

My mother insisted I accompany my family on a trip to Walt Disney World when I was 23 or 24. I did not pay for any of it, but I didn't want to go in the first place. I went to make her happy.

If they enjoy each others company I don't think it matters. You only get so long with your parents on this planet.

kwebber wrote: ↑Tue May 07, 2019 7:15 pm If they enjoy each others company I don't think it matters. You only get so long with your parents on this planet.

Isn't that the same justification for letting your 50 year old kid live with you still?

Biker wrote: ↑Tue May 07, 2019 7:26 pm Depends on the relationships I suppose. If you hate your kids, you cut them off when its legal. If you want them around to create more memories, then there is no age limit

Do your parents let you pick where you vacation?

Biker wrote: ↑Tue May 07, 2019 7:49 pm Seriously, how much of a dick does one have to be to have the parents cut you off from fam vacays once yu hit college?

Didn't your daughter go to college on the other side of the country?

beagleboy wrote: ↑Tue May 07, 2019 6:53 pm How old it too old to vacation with and pay for your kids vacation?

High school friend is taking his college age and older kids to Italy for a vacation together. He finds it creepy but his wife insists. They go on ALL their vacations and it drives him nuts.

My sister in law gave her 22 and 25 year old kids bills for their share of hotel rooms and gas when they went to Florida.

When I was younger, my parents cut us off the day my older brother hit college. No more vacations - our responsibility.



Our 55 year old neighbor took a 2 month cruise with her mom - they shared a room the entire 2 months.

Your friend thinks it is creepy to take his own kids on a vacation? Sounds like your friend is a dink. Is that the 'etiquette' part of the question?

If I won the lottery, one of the first things I would do would be to take the whole family on a vacation. Assuming they're still talking to me.

PimpDaddy wrote: ↑Tue May 07, 2019 8:09 pm

Your friend thinks it is creepy to take his own kids on a vacation? Sounds like your friend is a dink. Is that the 'etiquette' part of the question?

So you vacation with your grown kids and pay for everything? Do they have jobs? Have they moved out of your house?

poor people are funny.

FSchmertz wrote: ↑Tue May 07, 2019 8:15 pm If I won the lottery, one of the first things I would do would be to take the whole family on a vacation. Assuming they're still talking to me.

That's just sharing the bonanza. It would be normal to buy your kid a house and funding their retirement after winning the lottery, it wouldn't be if you actually worked for the money.

My sis and bro in law vacation with their kids and they make them pay - completely normal.
Oddly the guy going to Italy with his kids takes a summer week at the Lake of the Ozarks with his entire family - his dad doesn't pay for it.

If its an oddball thing like a once in a blue moon trip to Europe etc. I think it'd be ok. Every vacation I think would be too much. Plus it depends on the relationship: Are the parents just being nice by offering and they genuinely want to spend time with the kids or are the kids selfish brats and expect it?
As long as the kids are not expecting it from mommy and daddy all the time and they are otherwise pretty self sufficient I dont see a big problem.

Define "vacation".

If we're going on a fishing trip to Algonquin... then yeah, they can pay their own way.

If I'm going on a river cruise through Austria and I'd like them to be there... then I'll pay. Because it's my decision and I want them there.

CHEEZY17 wrote: ↑Tue May 07, 2019 8:31 pm If its an oddball thing like a once in a blue moon trip to Europe etc. I think it'd be ok. Every vacation I think would be too much. Plus it depends on the relationship: Are the parents just being nice by offering and they genuinely want to spend time with the kids or are the kids selfish brats and expect it?
As long as the kids are not expecting it from mommy and daddy all the time and they are otherwise pretty self sufficient I dont see a big problem.

His opinion is that 2 weeks in Italy is too damn much time and why does he have to pay for grown adults.
So it's a combination of mom wants it, the kids expect it and dad wants to fuck his wife in Italy without kids around. But the mom vacationed for free every year with her parents until she was married. (I took the mom to my prom!)

Neither parent has ever been to Europe before.

But the reality is they do a vacation every year together and he pays 100%.

He could always try talking to them rather than bitching about it.

When me and my kid go on vacation, he pays for everything.

My brother still takes his 20 to 25 y/o kids with him. At that age, I wouldnt be caught dead with the rents.

My oldest is out of college and doing well so she pays for her travel. My youngest is still in college so I pay for her travel.

Depends. My mom wants to go to disney. She wants my family to go. She wants this because she wants memories with my children, for them as well as her. Since she invited us, she is footing the bill for a lot of it. So what would you do here? "Hey mom, I know you want to make great memories with your grandchildren, but it would be creepy (somehow) for you to offer to pay for us to go, and us accept, so fuck you. Yes I'm aware you can afford it, and we could also, and you have nothing really to spend all your money on, but this guy would think funny things about us because he has some cultural stigma bullshit that he cant get over about money, so I guess it's a no. Because you know, money and what others think of us, is more important than happiness, spending time with your loved ones, and making memories."

However, if the kids ALWAYS went and even expected you to pay, then fuck them, they are just mooching. That is unless the parents want to. Then who gives a shit?

necronomous wrote: ↑Wed May 08, 2019 4:12 am Depends. My mom wants to go to disney. She wants my family to go. She wants this because she wants memories with my children, for them as well as her. Since she invited us, she is footing the bill for a lot of it. So what would you do here?

Much like the Cap, it's a one-off event and you are giving your mom a gift by going. I think that's completely normal.

If on the other hand you did it every year, it's time to cut the strings and grow up.

beagleboy wrote: ↑Wed May 08, 2019 1:22 pm

necronomous wrote: ↑Wed May 08, 2019 4:12 am Depends. My mom wants to go to disney. She wants my family to go. She wants this because she wants memories with my children, for them as well as her. Since she invited us, she is footing the bill for a lot of it. So what would you do here?

Much like the Cap, it's a one-off event and you are giving your mom a gift by going. I think that's completely normal.

If on the other hand you did it every year, it's time to cut the strings and grow up.

Like I said in the second part, I agree with this. That is unless the parents WANT to do this. Maybe this is their on going gift to them. But yeah if every year it happens I agree, they are fucking moochers and need to pony up some cash for their own trip.

beagleboy wrote: ↑Tue May 07, 2019 8:19 pm

PimpDaddy wrote: ↑Tue May 07, 2019 8:09 pm

Your friend thinks it is creepy to take his own kids on a vacation? Sounds like your friend is a dink. Is that the 'etiquette' part of the question?

So you vacation with your grown kids and pay for everything? Do they have jobs? Have they moved out of your house?

That's a completely different question. You stated your friend thinks it is creepy. Creepy? 1. Your friend is most likely gay if he uses that term. May as well say his kids are icky, too. 2. Your friend is not only gay, but he is also a pussy if he can't tell his wife how he feels. 3. Your friend is not only gay, and a pussy, but it sounds like he raised bratty kids, which makes him a shitty parent. TRI-FECTA of awesome friends! If he wouldn't ask his wife how to do it and for permission, I would say lend him a gun with 1 bullet or a noose. But then again, not everyone is cut out to be a cuck. Your friend though...